How Do You Create Real Confidence?

We often confuse confidence as something you're simply born with.  And whilst there is proof that there's a link between your DNA and your confidence, it's not the whole picture.  Confidence is an acquired skill.   

And why do I think confidence is SO important? I think Katy Perry sums it up quite nicely;   with confidence you can pull off just about anything!

The good news is that you don’t need to have a degree from Oxford or Cambridge, and you don’t need a great degree of sophistication either to create real confidence.

Learning how to create real confidence will change your life.

What is confidence? Confidence is...

• An inner conviction about the outcome of a given situation.  The inner conviction that you have the ability to deliver and perform a given situation.
• Assurance or complete and total persuasion.  A firm believe, trust, reliance; the belief in ones abilities. 
• Trust or faith in a person or thing.  When you have a trusting relationship, you have confidence in it.
• The settled peace of certainty in the soul.  Knowledge that you can achieve a goal.  The inner sense that all is right and well.
• Fearless boldness; courage.  The quality that leads you to stand up under or endure adversity.  It causes you to undertake a difficult take with diligence.  You will never take a firm stance on anything without confidence.

So, why wouldn’t you want to build real confidence?  

Stay tuned for useful tips on how to build your confidence.  This such important stuff.  Confidence is the foundation to almost every skill in your armoury.  And most importantly confidence is the powerhouse that allows you to start taking real action. Confidence will set you apart from the crowd whilst driving you and your business to success.

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Sarah 

5 Steps to Becoming More Confident

Surprisingly to many, you are not born with confidence, it’s an acquired skill.  There are simple changes that you can make that will exponentially increase your confidence.  Here are my 5 steps to growing your beautiful boldness.

1. You Don’t need 100 reasons to be confident

Say to yourself - “Today I’m going to absolutely believe in myself and be more confident”.  Before you leave the house look in the mirror and say “today I am going to own it!”

You don’t need 100 reasons to be more confident.  Have you ever had a day where you just absolutely crushed it?  This is the power of your heartfelt intention, your day was incredible because you woke up thought about the outcomes for your day, and then set your mind to achieve those goals. 

Intention is extremely powerful,  It energies you and transforms self doubt.  It will help you let go of the past and focused on the your goal.

So, simply decide you are going to be more confident and then just get out there any do it! You will massively reap the benefits. “You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are” - Wayne Dyer.

2. Be yourself

Real confidence is having the ability to authentically express who you are.  Have a clear intention of who you’re going to be and pursue the things you desire.

Being your authentic self makes a huge difference to the way that people perceive you.  Think of a life without Lady Gaga!  If she had not embraced and celebrated her differences then we would have a much less colourful world!   When you’re living with integrity for who you are and what you believe, you feel fully alive and authentic, in turn you feel more confident.  

Acknowledge your key skills, talents and realise your potential; be your own cheerleader and celebrate your fabulous self.  Believe in yourself and integrate each success into your heart and your identity.  This is one of the key steps of your personal development and growing your confidence.  

3. The Confidence-Competency Loop

Our success accelerates when we are confident.  Without confidence we revert to fear, and when we are fearful we don’t take any action.

There is a simple formula that reminds us that as you become more competent at something, you become more confident.  Babies are not born with confidence, but their confidence grows as they practice and develop.  As you increase your effort into learning a skill you become better at it.  

High achievers also don’t start off feeling naturally confident, deep down they will most likely feel like a complete fraud until they have developed a proficient set of skills for the new task.  Learn to take growth and development in your stride, see yourself as a work in progress!

4. Momentum

Think about what small things you can do to move ahead.  In your career or business, what can you do every single day that will add to your brilliance?  Don’t just go and crush it today and then forget about it; take action every single day and deepen your confidence.

The opportunities are limitless, we live in a world of abundance, but you got to take action every single day and in order to move towards your big goals.  

5. Love the magical adventure!

Take a moment every day to recoup and gain perspective.  Try viewing life as a magical adventure.  See the beauty everywhere you go and just have fun with it - don’t take it all too seriously!

I know that it’s sometime super hard when you are in the thick of things or you are working a job wear you have to wear that mask every single day, but ask yourself “what is the worst that can happen?”.  If you answer that question honestly you will find that the worst that can happen is that you have a bit more fun, maybe people will start to notice the subtle changes, but most importantly you will feel and be yourself. And honestly that’s who you truly want to be, the sparkly, real and confident version of you! 

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Much love

Sarah 

Xxx