What is your biggest fear? One of the most common answers to this question is that people are afraid to loose their job.  

Most of us think we have a problem in our lives until a bigger one comes along. Lets assume you have lost your job, it is not a problem until you loose your savings, but then that isn't a problem if you loose a leg, or your child gets sick.  

Once you start exploring this way of thinking you begin to understand that you are more than any moment.  There is no problem that you can't over come and your life is more than that one event.  Your life is controlled by the decisions that you make on a daily basis.  This is what will keep us playing small or really going for our dreams.  

So how do we overcome these limiting beliefs that hold us back?

You unlock your freedom when you face your fear and push through it; this is where the real transformation happens:

1. Identify where you are emotionally - guilty, overwhelmed, stuck, depressed, sad. You cannot change your life when you are stuck in these emotional states, there is not enough energy.  Once you identify the pattern and you see the truth, then you can decide how to fix the problem.
2. What is the antidote?  If fear is controlling things, the antidote is courage.  And in the present moment, being courageous may not necessarily feel good for you, but do it any way!  Push through the barrier.  Treat your emotions like a muscle, if you practice, you will get stronger.   People have patterns.  What is yours? Angry people get angry, sad people get sad.  This is where we naturally live in our “home” our comfortable place. We use triggers as events to get us “home”.  Identify the triggers and then find the antidote.  
3. Practice that emotion.  Know that you can change your frustrations. If you work out what is causing your frustrations, then you can start to take action.  Be consistent in working towards making the change.  Remember your natural instinct will be to go back to your natural “home”, but if you are aware of the trigger and keep practicing, soon a new muscle memory will kick in.
4. Condition the emotion - this is when your life changes, when your found new emotion is the new normal.  

I can attest, these steps do work.  From being a young child my learnt behaviour lead me to think that it was completely acceptable to loose control and have fits of angry rage.  Don't get me wrong, anger is completely normal, usually healthy human emotion.  But when it gets out of control it can be very destructive.  I learnt in my adult years, that getting angry doesn't actually solve the problem, it often exacerbates the issue. By practicing logically walking through an issue and by telling myself that “the world is not really out to get me” I slowly gained a more balanced perspective on life, and began to strip the drama out of my life …Sigh of relief!  

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